More Than Resolutions: A New Year Rooted in Relationship

 Holy Mary Mother of God, New Year 2026

As the new year begins, the Church invites us to look beyond self-improvement and focus instead on relationships, especially our relationship with God who has come close to us in Jesus Christ. Through the Marian dogmas of Mary as Mother of God, the Immaculate Conception, and the Assumption, we are reminded that God’s grace precedes us, accompanies us, and leads us toward our ultimate hope. Grounded in this grace, we are invited, like Mary, to begin the year by saying a deeper yes to God’s plan for our lives.

Madonna di Macerata, Carlo Crivelli (c. 1470)

Listen to homily:

Read homily:

New Year’s is, of course, a time when we often make resolutions. Resolutions to improve ourselves in some way. To eat healthier, to exercise more, to read more. And of course, these resolutions can be a very valuable thing. Oftentimes, by February, they have gone by the wayside, but it can still be good to take that moment and resolve to do something new.

At the start of this new year, however, the Church in her wisdom does something interesting by giving us this great feast dedicated to Our Lady, the Mother of God. On this day, the Church does not have us focus on making resolutions. Rather, the Church has us focused on relationships. We are given the image of Mary holding the baby Jesus. This relationship between Mary and her child, between ourselves and her child, and between ourselves and Mary. It is all about relationships today for the Church.

Although self-improvement is important, the Church on this day does not have us focus on that. Instead, we focus on the way that God has come so close to us in the Incarnation. Today, as we celebrate Mary as Mother of God, it is a reminder of how close God has come to us in the person of Jesus Christ.

In the Church, we have what we call dogmas, which are centrally held beliefs, non-negotiable teachings for us as Catholics. Several of these dogmas have to do with Our Lady, with Mary. I would like to look briefly at three of them this evening and reflect on how they prepare us well for the new year. These dogmas fill us with encouragement and, ultimately, they protect this central belief of our faith, the belief in the Incarnation, in how close God has come to each and every one of us.

We begin, of course, with the truth we celebrate today, Mary, Mother of God. This title is so important, and it was defined at the Council of Ephesus in the year 431. It was a time of great debate in the Church. Can we call Mary the Mother of God or not? Although this dogma seems to be about Mary, it actually protects something central about Jesus.

We believe that Jesus was always fully God and fully human in one person. There was never a moment when Jesus was not God. Therefore, if we believe that Jesus was God from the moment of his birth, then we must believe that Mary is the Mother of God. At the Council of Ephesus, the Church defined this article of faith, this title for Mary that we celebrate today.

This belief protects and defends what we believe about Jesus. Jesus was not half God and half human. He was fully God and fully human. This means that God has come incredibly close to us. God was born into a family. God was held by his mother. God was fed. God grew up. In Jesus Christ, God became like us in all things but sin.

This central belief that Mary is Mother of God reminds us that God has come so close to us in the Incarnation. As we start this new year, this is an incredible message of hope. God is with us. God knows what we go through. Because Jesus was truly human, he understands our joys and our struggles, and he will never leave our side.

The second Marian dogma I would like to reflect on is the Immaculate Conception. This was defined in the nineteenth century by Pope Pius IX. The Immaculate Conception is the belief that Mary was conceived without original sin. At first, this can seem like a strange concept, so it is worth unpacking it briefly.

Original sin does not mean that a baby has personally committed a sin. Rather, it means that we are born into the world lacking something that we should have. That something is the life of God within us, the life of grace that we receive in a special way through baptism. Original sin, then, is being born without that life of grace.

The Immaculate Conception teaches that Mary was not born with this lack. From the moment of her conception, she possessed the life of God within her. This does not mean that her life was easy. It does mean that she was able to respond fully to God’s plan with a perfect yes.

This belief is deeply encouraging for us. Often we think of salvation as God fixing things after we make a mess. We sin, we fail, and God comes in through Christ to restore us. That is true. But the Immaculate Conception teaches us something more. God’s grace goes before us.

Even before Mary could make a choice, God’s grace was already at work in her life. This is such an important truth for us. God’s grace always precedes our actions. We do have free will. We must make choices and decisions. But we never act alone.

If we desire to pray, that desire itself is already a gift of grace. If we feel called to forgive or to serve in a new way, that call is already God at work within us. The Immaculate Conception teaches us that we are not saving ourselves by sheer effort. God’s grace always leads and supports us. As we begin this new year, that is a powerful and hopeful message.

The third Marian dogma is the Assumption of Our Lady, defined by Pope Pius XII in 1950. The Assumption teaches that when Mary came to the end of her earthly life, she was taken into heaven body and soul. She already experiences what we all hope for when Christ comes again and the dead are raised.

This dogma is especially meaningful when we remember when it was proclaimed. The world had just endured two devastating world wars. Human dignity, and especially the dignity of the human body, had been terribly violated. The Assumption teaches us that our bodies matter. It teaches us that death does not end our relationships of love with God and with one another.

We do not look forward to eternal life as disembodied spirits floating on clouds. We believe, as we profess in the Creed, in the resurrection of the body. Mary already shares fully in this gift of Christ. She shows us our destiny.

As we begin this new year, then, let us certainly make resolutions. But let us also focus on relationships. Our relationship with God. Our relationship with one another. And especially our relationship with Our Lady. Her mission is always the same, to bring Christ into the world. True devotion to Mary always leads us closer to Jesus.

As we begin this new year, let us trust in the grace of God that comes before us. And like Our Lady, let us say yes more deeply to God’s plan for our lives.

Holiness on the Run

 Holy Family, 2025

The Gospel shows that the Holy Family was not spared hardship but knew fear, displacement, and struggle from the very beginning. Their holiness did not come from a perfect or peaceful life, but from God’s faithful presence with them in the midst of uncertainty and danger. This feast reminds us that holiness in our own families is found not in perfection, but in choosing love, forgiveness, and service each day, even when family life is messy and difficult.

Flight into Egypt, Giotto

Listen to homily here:

Read homily here:

The image of the Holy Family is something that we revere in many forms of art. We have our nativity scenes. We see the Holy Family depicted in stained glass windows and in famous paintings. Oftentimes, the Holy Family becomes a family that we admire from a distance. They can seem quite separate from our own experience. They are this holy family, unlike any other family.

At times, when we think of the Holy Family, we can even end up judging our own families and perhaps feeling a bit guilty about them, because they are imperfect or a bit broken. And yet, when we heard the opening prayer of Mass today, we were reminded that the Holy Family is a family we are called to imitate. For this reason, the Holy Family should not feel distant from us. In fact, in today’s Gospel, when we look closely at the Holy Family, we see that they have much more in common with families throughout the world today than we might expect.

When we truly reflect on this feast of the Holy Family, we begin to see that it has something real to teach us. It offers a hopeful message about our own families and about the closeness of the Holy Family to us. When we listen carefully to today’s Gospel, we discover that the Holy Family was not a family that experienced perfection or lived a serene, trouble free life. Far from it.

The Holy Family experienced stress, difficulty, and challenge. After the great celebration of Christmas, today’s Gospel feels almost like a shock. We have just celebrated with joy the birth of Jesus, and now we hear Joseph being told, “Take the child and his mother and flee to Egypt.” The Holy Family, as we encounter them today, is in great distress. Herod is seeking to destroy this child. They are fleeing for their lives. They are undergoing real danger and uncertainty.

The Holy Family, then, is not free from hardship. They live through moments of fear and stress. In a very real sense, they are refugees. Because of this, the Holy Family is very close to families who struggle, both in dramatic ways and in quieter ones.

The Holy Family we see in today’s Gospel were forced to flee. According to the United Nations, by the end of 2025, approximately 117 million people worldwide will have been forcibly displaced. Many refugees today are forced to flee in ways very similar to the Holy Family. According to UNICEF, more than 400 million children globally live in poverty and are deprived of at least two essential needs, such as food, clean water, or sanitation.

There are many families who struggle in ways like the Holy Family did. And even families who are not facing such dramatic crises still struggle. They struggle economically. They struggle with relationships. They struggle with illness, mental health, and the daily challenges of raising children. All families struggle, and the Holy Family was no exception.

God did not choose to spare the Holy Family from difficulty. So what, then, makes this family holy? Why do we call them the Holy Family?

What we see in today’s Gospel is that what makes them holy is not the absence of suffering, but the presence of God. God is always with them, supporting them and strengthening them. During Christmas, we celebrate the incarnation. We celebrate that Jesus is Emmanuel, God with us. It is fitting, then, that right after Christmas we celebrate the Feast of the Holy Family, because it reminds us that one of the primary ways God chooses to be present to us is through family life.

All families struggle. All families experience difficulty. But it is precisely along that journey that God walks with us. It is within our families that God cares for us and looks after us. We can think of God our Father, just as he was the Father of Jesus, as a parent who keeps watch over their child during the night.

You can imagine a child lying in bed, perhaps sick or afraid, and a parent sitting quietly nearby in a darkened room, keeping watch, making sure the child is all right, never leaving their side. God the Father is like this with us. He journeys with us. He watches over us. He cares for us and never abandons us.

The Holy Family was not spared from hardship, and neither are our families. God never promised to take away every trial, but he does promise to be with us and to strengthen us. Because of this, we are invited to rethink what holiness in family life truly means.

Holiness is not an end prize or a final achievement. Holiness is found along the journey, in choosing to love, to serve, and to sacrifice day by day. The Holy Family, especially as we encounter them in Matthew’s Gospel, is far from the idealized images we sometimes imagine, where everything is peaceful and free from difficulty. They experienced real trials.

We know little about the early years of Jesus’ life, but we know that he fled into Egypt. We know of the painful moment when he was lost in the temple as a child. There were undoubtedly many challenges along the way. Yet it was through their loving care for one another that holiness was revealed.

The same is true for us. Holiness in family life is not something we receive at the end of the journey. We experience God’s grace and God’s holiness when we commit ourselves to the messiness of family life, to its trials and challenges. We experience holiness when we choose to apologize after making mistakes, when we choose once again to forgive, when we choose again and again to serve, to clean up, to go the extra mile for one another.

It is in those daily acts of love and service that true holiness is found. The Holy Family, then, should never make us feel discouraged about our own families. Many families today are simply hanging on, struggling to get by. These families, too, are holy, because God is present with them.

In today’s Gospel, we learn that holiness in family life is found when we choose to love, even in the midst of difficulty and trial. It is then that families become holy. It is then that we grow in the love of Christ, with Mary and Joseph as our companions.

Let us pray today in gratitude for our families. And let us pray especially for families who are struggling, as the Holy Family once did, that we may all live the holiness of family life, sustained by God who is always with us.

God in the Diapers and the Dishes

 Christmas 2025

At Christmas, we celebrate the astonishing truth that God became human, not in power or glory, but in the ordinary rhythms of family life. Through the mystery of the Incarnation, God reveals that everyday moments are not obstacles to grace, but the very places where God chooses to meet us. Because Christ has been born, nothing in our daily lives is ever truly ordinary again.

Listen to homily here:

Read homily here:

Some years ago, I won’t say how long ago, but it was when I was training to be a priest, I spent a couple of years in Mexico. When I first arrived, my Spanish was very poor. I could hardly understand anything. But I arrived just before Christmas, and it turned out to be a very beautiful time to be there.

In Mexico, as in some other places, there is a tradition called posadas. It is similar to Simbang Gabi, if you are familiar with that. For about nine or twelve days before Christmas, people in the village gather each evening to reenact Mary and Joseph’s search for a place to stay. Together, the community moves from house to house, singing back and forth, asking to be welcomed in. The first few houses refuse, and then finally, at the last house, the doors are opened. And of course, once you are welcomed in, there is a big celebration: food is shared, and many songs are sung.

As I mentioned, my Spanish was very limited at the time. But there was one song I remember very clearly because it struck me deeply. It is called Los Peces en el Río, “The Fish in the River.” Some of you may know it. At the time, I didn’t really understand the lyrics, but the song moved me. We often sang it inside the houses during the posadas, and I remember feeling quite emotional whenever I heard it.

I knew it had something to do with fish in a river, somehow connected to worshipping Jesus at his birth. And so, in my imagination, I filled in the gaps. I built the song up in my mind as something very lofty and mysterious, something quite profound.

The following year, we celebrated the posadas again. By that point, after about a year, my Spanish had improved a little. So when I heard Los Peces en el Río again, I finally understood the lyrics, and I was surprised. They were much more down to earth, much more homey, than I had expected.

The song does speak about fish swimming in the river, drinking the water as they go to worship Jesus at his birth. But the first verse actually begins with Mary by the river, brushing her hair. I remember thinking, “All right, this is a bit unexpected, but I can work with this.”

Then came the second verse, which is even more striking. It begins, La Virgen lava pañales y los tiende en el romero, “The Virgin washes diapers and hangs them on the rosemary bush.” This was definitely not what I thought the song was about. The whole image I had built up in my mind suddenly burst. I remember thinking the song was a bit childish, maybe too simple.

But as time has gone on, and as I’ve learned a bit more humility, I’ve come to see that Los Peces en el Río is actually quite profound. In fact, I think it expresses something central to the mystery we celebrate at Christmas, the mystery of the Incarnation.

Like the Incarnation itself, this song communicates a deep truth. God works in extraordinary ways, but God’s extraordinary grace comes to us through ordinary moments of life. It is in the everyday, ordinary experiences we live through that God’s grace is found.

Tonight, of course, we celebrate something truly extraordinary. We celebrate the Incarnation, something astounding. God has become a human being. God chose not to save us by sending a messenger, or even an angel. God chose to become one of us, to save us, to be close to us.

The infinite God chose to become finite. The Creator of all things chose to enter into creation. The eternal Word became flesh. God did this to save us, to be as close to us as possible.

There is a story often told at this time of year, and some of you may have heard it. It tells of an old farmer on a cold winter night, shortly before Christmas. A storm had just passed, and the farmer went out to check his barn. When he entered, he discovered several birds inside. They had flown in through the rafters to escape the storm, but now that it had ended, they were trapped.

The birds kept throwing themselves against the windows and walls, trying desperately to get out. The farmer felt pity for them. He opened the barn doors wide and tried to shoo them outside. But the birds were afraid of him. They flew away from the open doors and continued to injure themselves.

The farmer tried everything. He scattered food, waved a broom, and tried to guide them gently toward the door. Nothing worked. The birds were terrified and only grew more frantic. Finally, the farmer had a realization. He thought, “If only I could become a bird. If I were one of them, they would trust me. If I became like them, I could lead them to safety.”

Just as this thought came to him, the church bells rang across the countryside, announcing the beginning of Christmas.

Tonight we celebrate something truly extraordinary. God has become a human being. And yet, at the same time, there is something disarmingly ordinary about how Jesus comes into the world. It is often said that there are two miracles at Christmas. The first is that God becomes human. The second is the kind of human being God becomes.

We look at the nativity scene and see that God does not enter the world in power or wealth, not as a mighty ruler or a famous philosopher. God enters the world in simplicity, in humility, in a family, in poverty. God comes to us in ordinary ways.

God does not ask us to escape our ordinary lives in order to meet him. Instead, God comes right into them.

This is why Los Peces en el Río is so theologically rich. It invites us to imagine Mary brushing her hair by the river. It asks us to imagine her washing Jesus’ diapers and hanging them out to dry. I try not to think too much about the fish drinking downstream. But the point is clear. In becoming human, God enters fully into ordinary life, into joy and fatigue, family life and daily struggles.

Our ordinary existence is not an obstacle to encountering God. It is the very place where God chooses to work.

Christmas invites us to see the world differently, to put on new lenses. If God entered the world through ordinary family life, then we should expect to meet God in the ordinary moments of our own lives, at the dinner table, doing the dishes, at work, on our commute, at school, with friends, when we forgive, when we are forgiven, when we serve, when we show patience.

In all of these moments, God’s grace is at work.

Perhaps a good question for us to ask tonight is this. What seems ordinary in my life right now, and how might God be communicating something extraordinary through it? It may be something joyful. It may be something difficult. But God meets us there.

For me, Christmas Mass is always one of those moments where the extraordinary shines through the ordinary. In many ways, tonight has been very ordinary. We came through a chilly night, avoided a bit of rain, found parking, and arrived perhaps a little tired. And yet something extraordinary is happening. We are gathered here from many backgrounds and places, united as the family of God, filled with joy, celebrating the birth of Jesus Christ.

This is what Christmas reveals to us. God has chosen to fill the ordinary with his presence. And if we have the eyes to see, and this is what Christmas trains us to do, then nothing is ordinary anymore. Because Christ has been born, every ordinary moment becomes an opportunity to encounter the extraordinary grace of God.